So you have finally decided after months of agonizing and sleepless nights, to finally take the plunge and join the brigade of stay at home moms. Along with getting used to a single income, you also have to mentally prepare yourself for the emotions like depression and a loss of identity. It is but natural to question yourself about whether you have made the right decision. But just because you have taken the decision to remain at home, your entire life need out come to a stand still.
So resolve to make most of this phase of life and like they say, when life throws you the proverbial lemon ensure that you are ready with the best citrus juicer available.
Here are a few suggestions:
1. Don’t bottle up emotions
Speak to someone like your husband or a close friend about how you feel. Let them know the reasons for your concerns, your fears. They will be able to provide you with the essential emotional and physical support that you need at this point.
2. Don’t neglect yourself
A home and baby involves a lot of work. But that does not mean that you don’t deserve a little time to yourself. Take time out to indulge in things that make you feel happy; maybe a coffee date with your best friends, or catching the latest movie or even browsing your local book store. Treat this time as sacrosanct and let family members know that you will not be available at that time.
3. Treat your body well
Find the time to weave exercise into your daily day. It will make you feel better emotionally and physically.
4. Try to use your professional skills from home
The internet has opened up a plethora of avenues for moms to work from home. This will help you to supplement your family income and give an outlet for your skills as well.
5. Do not hesitate to ask for help
Just because you are at home the whole day does not mean that you have to be ‘supermom’ and wife all the time. Ask your husband, mother or even your sister to watch your children for a few hours while you relax. This ensures that you are not stressed out all the time.
6. Don’t breed resentment
Always keep in mind that your children are not responsible for you staying at home. They did not ask to be born, so do not rub off the resentment on to them. If you find that you are not happy with you choice, find good reliable caregivers and start off by working a few hours outside the house.
7. Have a routine
Staying at home the whole day does not mean you don’t organize your day. Having a routine built into your day, like set times for meals, laundry , cleaning and kid related activities ensures that you are not pulling out your hair in frustration at the end of the day.
Always remember that your happiness and well being is in your hands, whether you are working outside the home or at home. You should not have to be defined by what you do.